The entire world is searching for love, even many of those who seem to have found it. In light of that, I must ask the question… do people really know what love is? I propose that the answer to that is no. Or, at least the majority of people don’t. In fact, let me narrow it down even more- the people who do not have an intimate relationship with God, do not truly know what love is. Why? Because God is love, so it is through a relationship with Him that we know love, love Him and ultimately love others.
We have come to know and have believed the love which God has for us. God is love, and the one who abides in love abides in God, and God abides in him. (1 John 4:16 NASB)
What if someone doesn’t know God or His love? What would love look like to that person? And, more importantly, could it even be defined as love? Love is defined in many ways often depending on the context even. As the world sees it, there are two kinds of love- compassionate love and romantic love. Compassionate love seems to be a deeper and more committed love, much like the agape love God has for us, but not quite. It is definitely the kind of love present in a marriage between a husband and wife. Romantic love, on the other hand, is a physical attraction between two people. It is completely feeling and physically based, almost exactly the definition of eros love. It makes sense to me that both loves could and even should be part of a relationship, specifically a marriage.
“The romantic love we feel toward the opposite sex is probably one extra help from God to bring you together, but that’s it. All the rest of it, the true love, is the test.” Joan Chen
The marriage is a covenant relationship between a man and a women. In this relationship, both parties choose to love even when they don’t feel like it. Think about it. How many times has God loved you when you weren’t very lovable, I know there have been many times for me. God chose to love me at many points in my life when I was disobedient, mean and unloving to others, hurting myself and others and most importantly, totally ignoring Him. But yet, in His perfect love, my Father, the Lord Jesus Christ, chose me and continued to love me. WOW! This relates directly to the representation of love in the Bible, which is a true and beautiful picture of the love God has for His people.
No one abuses his own body, does he? No, he feeds and pampers it. That’s how Christ treats us, the church, since we are part of His body. And this is why a man leaves father and mother and cherishes his wife. No longer, they become “one flesh.” This is a huge mystery, and I don’t pretend to understand it all. What is , clearest to me is the way Christ treats the church. And this provides a good picture of how each husband should treat his wife, loving himself in loving her, and how each wife is to honor her husband. (Ephesians 5:31-33 MSG)
Again we come to the realization of the connection between love, true love and God. God is true love. He gave us the example of Jesus and the church, who are His people, and even uses the analogy of Christ being the groom and His church being the bride. Jesus will come back one day for His Bride…
Then I, John, saw the holy city, New Jerusalem, coming down out of heaven from God, prepared as a bride adorned for her husband. (Revelation 21:2 NKJV)
God loves His people so much, He sent us Jesus, His son, to rid the world of sin. And, Jesus will be back for us, those of us who choose Him and His love, to take us like a bride. I really love how God uses marriage to show us His love. And as we love within our marriage as God loves us, we will see true love. Challenge yourself today to love with that true love and see and feel the difference it makes. The cool thing is if you have a relationship with Jesus Christ, you have the true love of the Father in your heart… you just have to let it out and share it. Once you do, I can promise you your life will be different and you will feel love like never before!
“True love doesn’t come to you, it has to be inside you.” Julia Roberts
Julia Roberts quote from http://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/keywords/true_love.html
Joan Chen quote from http://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/keywords/true_love.html
Bible verses from New King James Version Bible and The Message Bible