Why Forgive?


Forgiveness and connection. I experienced, even as of late, that in order to have a stronger, deeper and more intimate connection with people, you MUST have forgiveness. Moreover, that forgiveness might even need to be paired with some grace.

We all do things in our lives that are not the greatest… none of us are perfect. The only one who can claim that is Jesus Christ!

It was the precious blood of Christ, the sinless, spotless Lamb of God. 1 Peter 1:19 (NLT)

As we do those not so great things and make bad choices, well, we all hurt others in those moments, while ultimately hurting ourselves in the process. We then proceed to build walls and sometimes break connections with people too, all in an effort to protect ourselves.

In order to truly love in an intimate relationship, you cannot have walls. You also must have a connection in which you are continually connecting more and more with each other, drawing closer and closer together. Why in our effort to protect ourselves, do we hurt ourselves more? We have all been hurt. Sometimes the answer is simply that we are afraid of being hurt again. There is fear… God wants to take that fear away and does in the perfection of His love.

God is love. When we take up permanent residence in a life of love, we live in God and God lives in us. This way, love has the run of the house, becomes at home and mature in us, so that we’re free of worry on Judgment Day—our standing in the world is identical with Christ’s. There is no room in love for fear. Well-formed love banishes fear. Since fear is crippling, a fearful life—fear of death, fear of judgment—is one not yet fully formed in love.   1 John 4:17-18 (MSG)

Stop for a minute and search your heart. Search your heart with the guidance of the Holy Spirit and look at your relationships. Is there fear? Is there unforgiveness? Are you connected intimately? Or, are there walls everywhere you turn? Even walls that are short are obstacles preventing the relationship from being all it can be. In a healthy, connected, intimate relationship there should be no walls and no fear… only LOVE.

Now is the time for you to trust God and His love. Forgive and move forward with each person in your life whether they are close to you or just an acquaintance. Why not take a chance on God’s promise and share the forgiveness and grace He shared. Break down all those walls that have been built up around you. If you do it with a pure heart and with the help of the Holy Spirit, you will see and feel a difference. the weight you have been carrying around will be lifted and your heart will be filled with joy. I have done it, even though I honestly didn’t believe it could make such a difference, Jesus knew I was carrying around that bag of stuff that I was supposed to give over to Him.

The coolest thing about all of this is that once I forgave others and myself I was able to begin knocking down the walls I had built. More importantly, God was able to begin changing me on the inside. Once I was cleaned out, He could really move in and take over! Now the Father is working inside me like never before. Are you ready? Why not let go of it all now… it is time for true FREEDOM!!!


Bible verses taken from: https://www.biblegateway.com





2 thoughts on “Why Forgive?

  1. Nice article, but what if you do not honestly want to forgive? I know that it is only hurting us and not the man who did it, but I feel that it is very difficult to not want bad things to happen to him. He really ruined our lives. Probably does not even care, but we do. What to do?


    1. Good point and I have so been there, believe me. Sometimes the best things we do in life are the things that we don’t want to do and the hardest at that. If you believe in God and believe His Word, then you will understand that you should let go of any offense against someone else. Not saying that what they did was right, but instead merely forgiving them for hurting you. A weight will be lifted and God will take it away from you and fill you with peace. He promises it and I believe the promise, it has happened for me…

      Colossians 3:12-17 (MSG)
      12-14 So, chosen by God for this new life of love, dress in the wardrobe God picked out for you: compassion, kindness, humility, quiet strength, discipline. Be even-tempered, content with second place, quick to forgive an offense. Forgive as quickly and completely as the Master forgave you. And regardless of what else you put on, wear love. It’s your basic, all-purpose garment. Never be without it.

      15-17 Let the peace of Christ keep you in tune with each other, in step with each other. None of this going off and doing your own thing. And cultivate thankfulness. Let the Word of Christ—the Message—have the run of the house. Give it plenty of room in your lives. Instruct and direct one another using good common sense. And sing, sing your hearts out to God! Let every detail in your lives—words, actions, whatever—be done in the name of the Master, Jesus, thanking God the Father every step of the way.


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